codyhuntsaz Report post Posted May 13, 2015 My wife and I have been diagnosed with what doctors call unexplained infertility. We have done two rounds of IVF with no success. We have sunk in excess of $25,000 into this process with nothing to show for it but the heartbreak of two early miscarriages. This has led us down the road of adoption. I thought I would reach out to anyone here that maybe has any experience with this or has any relatives or friends that work with adoption agencies. We are just starting this journey and it can be very confusing until you know which agencies are good and which agencies you shouldn't work with. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks Cody 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Flatlander Report post Posted May 13, 2015 Cody thanks for sharing, I have seen how devastating infertility can be. I don't know anything about adoption, but I wish you the best of luck and hope the process of raising children can one day bless your life. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ivhunter Report post Posted May 13, 2015 thanks cody.. good luck sir. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
8OWHUNT247 Report post Posted May 13, 2015 I wish I could help. Hats off to ya. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
codyhuntsaz Report post Posted May 13, 2015 Thanks fellas and Thank you for sharing that IVHUNTER Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Red Rabbit Report post Posted May 13, 2015 You may wish to contact Chris Beck (sundevil) or Larry Roberts ( scoutm) 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
huntswnm Report post Posted May 14, 2015 Cody, Not sure how things work in Arizona, but my wife and I were blessed with adopting a son in 2003 here in NM. The best advice I can start with is try to go through a private agency. We used New Mexico Christian Children's Home out of Portales, NM. It is a Christian facility that runs an adoption agency along with single parent help and foster care. The birth mother of our son came to the agency at about 3 months pregnant and they gave her housing and meals and assisted with covering medical costs that her Medicaid didn't pay. The agency had a flat "price" we paid for their services which included all court costs and such to finalize the adoption. For this process we basically made a portfolio, or scrapbook, of our family and who we were and when a woman came in with adoption as an option she was given the scrapbooks that matched what both her and the adoptive family were looking for and ultimately she chooses which family her baby goes to. For us overall it was a good experience and I think it took somewhere around 4 years for us to be chosen and things to be finalized. This is a relatively small agency so I would imagine it could go quicker in a bigger city. I say all that to give an example of how it is done in some places. I have a friend right now that is trying to adopt a child through the State Foster system and it is a nightmare. State agencies will go to adoption as an absolute final resort. I have seen the baby that they are trying to adopt get put back into the mother's care just to be pulled again after she fails drug tests. That has happened about 3 times. The state system is cheaper as far as money goes, but sure seems to me that the price they are paying emotionally and psychologically every time the state sends the baby back to his mom is not worth it. Hope this helps a little. If you have some questions or I can help at all feel free to ask! Jeff Add on: We lost a son to SIDS in 2003 and could not get pregnant again. We adopted in 2007. The Lord then blessed us with a pregnancy and another son in 2010. While listening to SOS Radio today they were talking about adoption and mentioned this website: www.adoptex.org 6 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TwoGuns Report post Posted May 15, 2015 Cody, my wife and I have adopted 3 from foster care, and are in the process of adopting 2 more from Bulgaria. We spent more than 7 years as a foster family and have some experiences that might be useful to you all. We are also fairly well connected with agencies, etc. It is hard to adopt, and harder to stop adopting. It is the best decision you could make. Couple things to watch if you have time. http://www.fox10phoenix.com/story/27477470/2014/11/25/double-dog-dare-boy-raises-money-to-help-adopt-bulgarian-child https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rztYMMhMT2Y Anything we can do to help let us know. Darren 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
scoutm Report post Posted May 15, 2015 You may wish to contact Chris Beck (sundevil) or Larry Roberts ( scoutm) I'm more than happy to share our experience with you. I will shoot you a PM with contact info. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
